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Up there with lost socks in the dryer and Justin Bieber, the reason men disappear during the dating process is the greatest of life’s mysteries. Did he vanish because he’s secretly a secret agent and had to suddenly leave the country? It’s possible that he lost his phone and all had no way of calling or broke both of his thumbs and couldn’t text.

Perhaps it was my own recent experience with a disappearing man that piqued my interest in Evan Marc Katz e-book titled, effectively, Why he disappeared. Or perhaps I was merely interested on your behalf, dear reader. Either way, if you’ve ever asked the question, “Why did he disappear?” it’s well worth a read.

In the book, Katz sets out to educate smart, successful women by uncovering the inner workings of the mind of a man. He explains the factors that come into play when love interests pull disappearing acts after first dates, during courtships and mid relationship. Unlike so many “experts” that delve into the realm of dating advice books, Katz has been coaching single women for many years and throughout the book he offers real life examples to illustrate his points. From forty year old Cami whose aggressive attitude won her praise in the boardroom but not on the dating scene, to Katz himself who was once a self confessed player, the book delivers a strong, practical message minus the hokey schmaltz we’ve come to expect from patronising dating experts.

Katz understands that confident, successful women want partners who are their equal and he explains the kind of behaviour confident, successful men respond best to during the dating process. At the heart of his argument is the following principle: “The reason you should learn how to handle men better is because you can’t make men handle you better.” We’ve known for a while now that we can’t change men – oh, how we’d like to – so instead, why not change the way we interact with them?

At some point while reading “Why he disappeared” I came to an uncomfortable realisation. For every hour I’ve spent lamenting boys that don’t call and blaming them for stalled courtships, it could well be my own actions that have caused this breakdown. From being too aggressive, to initiating sex and sending text messages, I could actually be at fault for these unexplained disappearances.

After two solid weeks asking myself why my latest romantic interest disappeared, I feel as if I have some closure on the matter thanks to Katz. And if I follow his advice from now on, this could well be the last time I have to ask just why he disappeared.

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