No other relationship milestone awakens the inner child quite like the prospect of meeting the parents. Whether you’re 14 or 40, the quest for parental approval is fraught with danger.

For both the partner making the introduction and the introducee, there’s the fear that the family will deem the new love interest unloveable and depending on how close the bond between parent and child, the relationship could come to a grinding halt.

So here are our top five tips for meeting the parents:

1. Dress to impress

Unless your new beau has pre-warned you his family are Hell’s Angels, err on conservative side. Save your cleavage for later and opt for simple, understated attire that’s not too flashy or garish. Gents, polish those shoes and iron that shirt. And one would hope we don’t have to say it but, please, brush your hair and teeth. Death breath is not the way into your girlfriend’s mother’s heart.

2. Be polite and punctual

Don’t keep the folks waiting and once you arrive, remember that manners are your best friend. Fellas, grab the door for your lady and pull out her chair at dinner. If you can do the same for her mum, you’ll win more than one heart.

3. Listen

And I mean really listen. Don’t just wait for a break in the conversation so you can talk. Listen to what your partner or their parents are saying and ask questions. The same approach that works in a date situation will work like a charm but keep the flirtatiousness to a minimum. You don’t want him to think you’re making moves on his dad and his black Amex.

4. Follow their lead

When it comes to pubic displays of affection in the company of your potential in-laws, follow the lead of your partner. They know their family well enough to show you what’s appropriate. Same goes for paying the bill at the end of dinner although it’s always polite to offer.

5. Relax

Your partner obviously thinks you’re good enough to meet their folks so relax and be your usual charming self. Of course, if your usual charming self is an obnoxious drunk, best to avoid the drink and not relax too much.

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